This world needs a few lies too......

You there?

Hey!! r u busy….

I kept on buzzing and buzzing but there was no reply, so I closed the yahoo window. Fifteen minutes later, suddenly, a window popped up with words…” I’m eating”…yeaaa….she said.

I smiled. It happens after every two three days. Whenever she doesn’t want to talk to me she is either busy or eating or doing something very -very important. I was not amazed cuz I was used to it, it wasn’t a BIG lie, but still a lie is a lie. I thought what if she had said KP ryte now I don’t want to talk to you. It would have sounded rude. So it was just a practical way of saying that I don’t wanna talk to you at the moment.

Even I lie…sometimes ;). We all lie. A person who has not lied, even once, in his or her entire life will be a unique Human. Still to be discovered. Truth and lie, both are equally important. Without lie truth will have no value. And without truth there is no lie. Then why to fuss around. Man can’t live only with truth. He needs lies. He lives through lies. You can go on saying that we all want truth. But the fact is that no one wants truth. And our so-called truths are nothing but lies. Beautiful lies. Try to see the reality. Naked reality.

And what a lie is?? It’s just another form of illusion. And we love and live in deep illusions—illusions of hope, of future, of tomorrow. Nietzsche says somewhere that man cannot live with the true: he needs dreams, he needs illusions, he needs lies to exist. And Nietzsche is true.

Osho said something very interesting about Lies.

Maybe you lied once to somebody, maybe you deceived somebody. So what? This whole life is a drama and we are all actors. And a little bit of cheating is perfectly okay -- it makes life a little juicy, it gives life a little spice! Otherwise everybody telling just the truth....

Just think: if even for twenty-four hours everybody on the earth decides to tell the exact truth, there will be no world -- finished! Just think in your mind: twenty-four hours... everybody telling the exact truth and nothing else... nobody will be a friend to you; you will not find two friends in the whole world. Every couple will be divorced. Children will leave their parents, parents will leave their children. All will be finished! No customers will come to any shop. The world will come to a stop immediately -- nirvana(final emancipation) for the whole world in a single blow!
This world needs a few lies too. It makes life smooth, it helps. Lies are like lubricants.
So... keep eating until you feel stodgy. Cya later. So long…

Tuition Fee Hike

Nakakainis hindi ba? The CHED does cha-cha over their stand on schools who are requesting some tuition fee hike amidst the economic slowdown that the Philippines is on (Economic slowdown, not recession according to Winnie Monsod). Ang masaklap pa nito, maraming mga paaralan sa bansa ang abuso sa kanilang deregulated status na kesyo hindi na sila sakop ng CHED moratoriums eh halabira na silang gawin ang gusto nila at the expense of the "kawawang" parents (na nagkakanda-kuba na sa tuyot na sakahan na pagmamay-ari ng iba). Marami ding hanep ang sakripisyo, tigil-aral kasi hindi na kayang tustusan. Pero hindi kailangan masadlak nalang sa ganitong sitwasyon. Kung talagang magaling ka, puwede kang magbanat ng buto at labanan ang sistemang dulot ng kawalanghiyaan ng mga ilang paaralan, ang kakitiran ng mga utak ng mga nasa sangay ng pagbalangkas ng mga polisiya sa Edukasyon at iba pang awtoridad. Utak niyo amag!

Worse, karamihan ng mga estudyante ay feeling! Wala lang sa kanila ang mga aspetong ito bagkus mas inintindi pa ang pagliit ng kanilang kupit mula sa kanilang ibabayad sanang tuition fee sa kanilang paaralan para matustusan lamang ang kanilang luho: bisyong alak, babae, drugs, yosi, textmates, computer games, atbpa. (Huwag ka, totoo ito... nakatira ako sa community na maraming nagpapaboarding kaya alam ko ang huwisyo ng maraaming estudyante.). Imbes na mag-aral ng mabuti para kapag naka-top eh makadiscount or ma-exempt sa exam ng maging proud naman ang parents, hayun naroon sila sa kanto kanto ng Mormon's Church patext-text at pabaske-basketball... Hay buhay! Mabuti na lamang ay walang tuition fee hike sa LC. Pero hanggang kailan? Ano naman ang mga masasakripisyong services? Hindi naman ito magic magic para ignorin ang needs ng school para sa isang de-kalidad na Edukasyon at para sa mga empleyado nito. Pero saludo ako sa LC, katulad din ng ilang schools sa Dagupan sapagkat kasama nila ang parents na tumitiklop sa panahon ng krisis pang-ekonomiya na nararanasan ngayon. Matatandaan na hindi lamang sa taong ito nagkaroon ng "No tuition Fee Hike" sa LC kundi nagkaroon din ng ilang payment scheme sa naturang paaralan kagaya ng O down payment, enrol now pay later, etc.

Kaya mga estudyang pulpol... Huwag na kayong mag-aral kung hindi niyo kayang ayusin ang buhay niyo. Kung mahal niyo ang pamilya niyo; Makisama kayo sa pagtitipid. Nag-imbestiga na ba kayo kung nagmemeryenda ang nanay o kaya tatay niyo, may maiabot lang na datung na siyang kakaltasan niyo lang sa bandang huli? Kaya pala walang naglalakas-loob sa inyo para salungatin at ipaglaban ang karapatan sa school kasi karamihan mismong mga estudyante lalu na ang mga lider lideran, mga nagsisimula sa mababang uri ng corruption... ang "pagkupit" sa tuition fee. At ano ang susunod na mangyayari? "Infection", na magdudulot ng "chronic" na sakit na matindi pa sa TB na tatama sa inyong buong pagkatao at magpapahirap sa buong bansang Pilipinas. At pagkatapos, maninisi kayo ng iba? What a lame excuse!

Hay buhay... gising gising! Makibahagi sa pagtiklop, hindi lang school ang dapat gumawa ng paraan. Kayo din. Nakita niyo naba ang mga estudyyante ng DMMMSU? Maraming naglalakad hindi ba? I-divert ang ilang energy para makatipid. Gamitin ang utak hindi ang utak sa ibaba... turn off the TV when the freak shows are there, watch programs that matters. Hindi yung mga programang nagpro-promote ng hindi matalino at realistikong pakikipagrelasyon, "marami na pong tao sa Pilipinas buhay ng mga artista parin ang pinoproblema..."

Titser Titser EDUKHA-lay!

Kelan ba nakialam ang mga guro sa school patungkol sa mga karapatan ng mga estudyante para ipaglaban ang pagbalasa sa mga panuntunan ng Kolehiyo? Mangilan ngilan ang pawang laway meron lamang sila in the guise of a so-called kunwaring pakikisimpatya. There you have it guys, they don't care whether you fail or not. They don't. Meron pasimpleng papikit nga maglagay ng grade sa di deserving pumasa eh. Next thing you know, they're out in the street eating fish balls together. Aaaw so sweet! Why would they care? There are just some people who want to keep their jobs in the long run. Mga hinayupak na deadma! Ayaw pagamit ang facility ng school kasi may SOP na dapat sundin. ERR, eh sasabak ng contest ang kahabag habag na estudyante, ni pamasahe hindi siya pinondohan ng kumag na edukador! Aminin man nila o hindi, ang employees association nila ay burak- it does not have any significance. Puro payaso ang mga lider lideran dun. Projects nila bulok! Kaya pati mga org ng students, sunod sa uso. Does it change employer-employee relations. Kupal! They just make sure the president is under their dictatorship para walang "rally", walang collective bargaining. So burak is that puppet organization to the extent that they can't even unite in solidarity to come up with "just compensations" sa mga naghihingalong guro. No wonder kung anu-ano nalang krimen ang nagagawa ng ilang guro from emotionally torturing their students, selling their MLM, suggesting a book to buy in exchange for commissions, halla from eload to va-jj nadamay na. Take it for example the faculty from the a department who teaches in all the rest of the college. Sa pamasahe nalang laking dusa na when if fact they should be entitled for a transportation allowance. Grabe taas na ng presyo ng gasolina at pitchi pitchi lamang ang mga rollback ng mga kumag na petroleum companies na yan pero heto si mam at sir, super tiyaga kahit namamaos ang boses para hindi lamang ma-late sa klase. Oo, suwail nga kasi may checker ano? May surveillance camera pa ang ilan. Those capitalists monsters! Heheh, buti sana kung per hour ang bayaran. Yung iba nga night differential nila "coke at lugaw" from a graveyard canteen. Eeew! Don't they be given a chance to cut that stress? Do you think they too should be entitled to be late for humanitarian reasons? (Shungak namang Igme to, pati pagiging late ng empleyado kinukunsinte. ) Di nga, kasi si mam may sakit sa puso eh di kayang akyatin ang ganung kataas na kuwarto gayong hindi naman puwedeng lipat ng ibang kuwarto ng basta basta kung wala namang iba pang rekititos sa admin. (Diyaskeng Igme, pati comfort ng mga titser inintinde eh may karapatan naman silang mag-terror at mambagsak ng estudyante, di ba? ) Oo nga no tukmol. Pano naman ang mga titser na talagang hina-harass ang mga estudyante para lang matsansingan nila? Oo nga, titser bang matatawag yun? Ano yun? Langaw pare! Isang maitim at malaki't mabahong bangaw! Wala akong homophobia pare, pero don't you think foul naman yung himas himasin ka while taking the academically challenging exams or you get to be called for a few minutes after dismissal for that indecent proposal. Impakto talaga pare! This is a nightmare pero pano nga ba iwasan ang ganoong may matinding pagnanasang Bangaw?
Maging mabuting estudyante. Mabuti in the sense na walang late, walang absent, pulido ang lahat ng requirement at mag-aral ng mabuti para walang black-hole para masabit sa tukso para makapasa lang later on. (Eh Igme pano kung too late na?") Eh di bagsak at kung bagsak ka, wag ka ng magpawis para hanapin yang Bangaw na yan. Ang bangaw, sensors lang meron yan, walang human brain. Bangaw nga eh! Repeat mo nalang at malas kung sa kanya ka na naman natapat. Olats kung hindi kapa matuto pre. (Igme, eh habulin talaga ako ng mga Charing, hindi ko rin alam eh.) Wag ka kasi masyadong mag-gym kasi patok ang macho p're, eh. Magpanggap ka kayang ka-pederasyon din? Yan kasi sabi ng friend ko na kasama sa circle, basta malaki kasi katawan p're... (Igme, ano pa tip?) Argh, antokers nako pre. Next time ulit!

Do you thinks it's right to Change for the Other?

jhl930: i think that we have all heard some stories about people changing for the other and sometimes that is good in my opinion and then again sometimes its not that good honestly...i think that its good to change if you are doing something bad like maybe your a big drinker and you change for that person and your not such a drinker anymore or you are on drugs or something like that and you change for that person and you don't do drugs anymore, just stuff like that or maybe before you were the kind to have a few boyfriends/girlfriends at the same time(nto serious)and you just have the one now and you are happy...but then again there are bad ways that you can change...so what about all of you do you think its right to change for the other? thanks for taking the time to read my discussion and hopefully you will take part and answer...i hope that you all have a great day today!

manunulat: The questions that we should ask ourselves would be "Are we going to change for the better? And if so, are we ready to leave the old person we are?" CHANGE should not be treated as an enemy, it's a life force and it's inevitable. When we engage into a relationship, a change should always be welcomed as a force that could make both person grow and mature. When the examples that you have mentioned are stopped or measures have been done by the person who has that annoying behavior; the idea of determining whether he or she made that decision right is the quality of how that person made that decision. When a person decides to take action on that decision, there should be an affirmation that he or she is doing it for the better- the examples that you have cited is more beneficial to that person who has that unaccepted behavior when he or she realizes that the behavior needs to be changed. There should be a commitment to do the necessary ways to make his or her plans work and if the expected result does not manifest, a person should be ready to re-evaluate the kind of decision that had transpired. On the other hand, we cannot force others to make life changes according to our standards (it's confrontational when we nag or face our men, it won't work.). We can motivate others to Change using non-confrontational approaches because there are some people that really needs life-coaching. Yet, what's been embedded as Character is really difficult to address because a person may not be open-minded to consider the benefits of such decision. And if so, are we ready to live in with that kind of relationship and are we ready to accept that kind of person he or she is? If we respect individual differences, how long can we handle their behavior? We can not not communicate.

Fiesta

Muelitz: Yesterday, we celebrated the whole day as if we were back in our country of origin.It was a Philippine Fiesta in Canada. The organizers of the festival rented a picnic area at Meadowvale Conservation Park in Mississauga, Ontario. There were a lot of people from different corner of Canada and even from the USA. There were so much food and drinks that there were still left over 10 hours later. Aside from eating and mingling there were plenty of parlor games for the kids which they really enjoyed. I surely wished my kids were here as they would have enjoyed every minute of it. Do you enjoy attending fiestas or such an event?Just Sharing,

Manunulat: Yes and No. Yes for religious gatherings, family gatherings (especially reunions but we really keep things short to avoid disagreement circumstances since my family is BIG and complicated.) and no for merely socializing and show off. You can't deny it man, PINOYs are often extravagant in some fiestas. It is like missing the real meaning of celebrating the whole thing. In most traditional provinces, there's a so-called "house-hopping" wherein you get to go to a strangers' house to eat up, drink a lot and stuff. It is really bad since other families are in difficult situation financially but they have to resort to "debts" just to keep up with the tradition. I am lucky I am Ilocano. Most of our fiesta's don't promote such extravagance, except for the "babaknang" where it's their chance to share their blessings to others that's why most of them usually are the hermana mayors. Most festivals in the Philippines now are enhanced, fading the real spirit of celebrating it in order to commercialize it for Tourism. Good or bad? It has both effects in our values as a people.

To a Married man or the Bachelor?

Cecelgay: There are poelple says married man are a good lover than a bachelor because married man knows how to show his care, love and gives his best effort to his woman.....
>Sorry to all bachelors in mylot but i will agree on that, married man are more showy than bacholrs, married man are not afraid to show thier feeling... while most of bachelors that i know doesnt really care how thier girlfriend feel, they are busy in so many things... and sometimes they are busy in hunting another girl....
Peace to all bachelors, that is just my view... what is yours?

Manunulat: Married man is not afraid to show their affection because being into a relationship with him with a single person boosts his self-esteem, that despite he's married... he can still be attractive and can enjoy what a single guy would have. On the other hand, they could be good lovers in the aspect that they have already enough experience in committed relationships like that and committed relationships oftentimes have a higher degree of communication. I don't think being married gives a guarantee that he is a good lover. There is something wrong in the marriage that is why a man resort to illicit affair like that. On the other hand, singles often are not that affectionate because each have a degree of priority/ies that are not solely on their girlfriends. And yes, some are busy hunting on another girl because there is no commitment but there are singles who could stick to one woman. It's just a matter of how singles view their freedom.

Is there Heaven?

There are many heavens. I had an OBE as a kid and I'm so sure that there is heaven. My OBE is a proof that there is life after death so I'm not worried about any thing. Moreover, holy scriptures speak about the heavens so it's a spiritual quest. More so, there is a mention of a New Heaven. So I guess that would be very fantastic. So, I'm living my life good so that I could get there someday.

Sa ganang akin ay...

Sampung bagay na naglalaro sa aking isipan... 1. Nung huli kong makausap ang aking kapatid na lalaki, nabanggit niya ang katagang "racial cleansing" sa harap ng aming diskusyon sa pulitika. Aming napag-usapan ang mga posibilidad kung hindi napatalsik ang rehimeng Marcos... 2. Naninindigan ang aking ina na hindi lehitimong pangulo si PGMA bagamat nasambit kong hindi man lehitimo, sino naman ang karapat dapat? 3.Dalawang beses ko ng nakasalu sa inuman ang aking Ama at ang pinakamahalagang sinabi niya sa akin ay ang paghingi ng kapatawaran sa mga nagawa niya sa amin. 4. Hindi ko lubos maisip kung bakit hindi pa nareresolba kung sino talaga ang pumatay kay Ninoy Aquino. Maraming teorya ngunit mahalaga na sana'y mapahayag kung sino ang may sala. 5. Masyadong mahal ang usapang pangkapayapaan. 6. Nakakatakot pakinggan ang mga religious fundamentalists pero kung hindi ka naman makikinig... wala ka ng ibang magagawa kundi magpalahi... 7. Nakakabahala ang pilosopiya ni Manong Dolphy, wala daw siyang pinagsisihan pero nasusuklam siya sa kanyang sarili. 8. Kung gusto mo ng isang radikal na pagbabago, magpasabog ka ng bomba. Pero, kung katulad ng paunti-unting pagpapasabog lamang, malamang mabagal ang pagbabagong iyan. Ikumpara mo naman ang bomba sa Hiroshima at ang pangyayari sa twin towers; alin ba dito ang pagbabagong gusto mo? 9. Hindi mamamatay ang usaping pangkalayaan. Sino ba ang malaya? 10. Bakit kapa nag-aaral kung alam mong sa huli'y hindi mo naman gagamitin ang iyong pinag-aralan?

Holy Spirit

HOLY SPIRIT, HOLY SPIRIT, THOU WHO MAKE SEE EVERYTHING AND SHOW ME THE WAY TO REACH MY IDEAL. THOU WHO GIVE THE DIVINE GIFT TO FORGIVE AND FORGET THE WRONG THAT IS DONE TO ME AND WHO ARE IN ALL INSTANCES OF MY LIFE WITH ME. I, IN THIS SHORT DIALOGUE, WANT TO THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING AND CONFIRM ONCE MORE THAT I NEVER WANT TO BE SEPARATED FROM YOU NO MATTER HOW GREAT THE MATERIAL DESIRES MAYBE. I WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND MY LOVED ONES IN YOUR PERPETUAL GLORY. AMEN.

Pray for 3 consecutive days without stating one's wish after the 3rd day your wish will be granted. No matter how difficult it may be promise to publish this, as soon as your favor has been granted.

Is it in me?

I'm a writer, motivated by Educators whom I catch their attention. I didn't know why? I thought being introvert was cool enough to shield myself from walking with the world but these keen eyes were able to dig me out from my shell. I was trying to mimic the ordinary but the more I tried, they seem to think I am extraordinary. Too much applaud could be addicting. I left the zone only to trap myself from the fact that I belong to this craft. During my life's struggles, I paid homage to Rizal and I still believe in his crap. I tried to switch to Boni not for a change but to abandon the first until I finally discovered how parallel they were. Rizal may not be in congruence but his ideas lead the Revolution. Destiny is hard to cue, it is a matter of timing. Yeah, timing is everything and I'm pretty sure it always works when we keep track of the time. I am ordinary. That's what I know about myself. Being perceived as the other side is a matter of auto-suggestion. Have you tried questioning if I deserve such exaltation? Examine thyself. You could be wrong. I am simply, Igmedio. I am a friend. I can be your nightmare. It's good to be clever but stupidity can save lives most of the time. I can swallow my pride and admit my wrongs. Though I can seriously express how sorry I am for such things I may have caused, it doesn't happen all the time. I am me and I am a walker. I am my speech and I am my free mind.

In response to an alleged offense…

Good day! I have not heard from you for the past years yet I want to express my full gratitude for all the things you have done in the past. I may not be able to provide ample compensation nor return any thanks for the support you rendered during the high tides and storms but I never intend to hurt you in any manner. It was a “swallow-hard” decision and I believe it is caused by communication gaps. You are always a friend to me and I cannot discard whatever things that transpired in that friendship.

I apologize for the many ways I may have hurt or offended you- those that I may or may not be aware of. As far as I’m concerned I opted not to explain further for my sincerity might be in question if it is not done personally. If the opportunity comes along way, may you have an open heart to talk things over… People always have things to say (most of those do not have any concern at all) but I know that YOU understand better- you are the BEST!

Again, thanks a lot and Good luck!