Friday, October 17, 2008
Ritu and Amrish Kumar at WIFW
Ethnic and sexy are two complementary words for today's yahoo feature but the statement is more than the words itself. According to the photo caption, top designers "Ritu and Amrish Kumar's creations are synonymous with traditional Indian embroideries and textile". As a personal opinion, it's a revival of two decades of human history set in a ramp, speaking of "a glamorous expression of every woman's individuality".
The models parade in dresses ranging from "thigh and knee lengths to full-length maxis, shifts and spaghettis and pallazo's, gharara's and wide bottom denims in loud prints and textured wovens. Colour pallet includes Teal Blue and Brick Red, purples, oranges, off whites and yellows."
The symmetry of each design and jewelry matches. It is neither Samoan, Greek, Egyptian, nor Spanish Gypsy who is paving the catwalk but having that second look, it is Indian fashion reinvented to be worn by one who wants to fit into the sandals of a princess. Yet some fashion gurus are still bothered about the sensitivity that most of Indian designs are confronted by the west's perception of being unable to "fit in"; this is a trend that Indian fashion is moving to a direction of Innovation and Exploration. Despite ambiguous matches with some bags and wallets, both designers are masters in persuading women to be free, not careless of modesty despite modern living.
Friday, October 10, 2008
Sex Addiction
"sexual addiction"- used to describe the behavior of a person who has an unusually intense sex drive or an obsession with sex. Sex and the thought of sex tend to dominate the sex addict's thinking, making it difficult to work or engage in healthy personal relationships.
Sex addicts engage in distorted thinking, rationalization and blaming others for problems. One defense mechanism is also denial. In most cases, the sex addict's treatment is dependent on his acceptance of admission of the problem which is mostly influenced by significant event—such as the loss of a job, the break-up of a marriage, an arrest, or health crisis—to force the addict to admit to his or her problem.
Behaviors associated with sexual addiction include:
- Compulsive masturbation (self-stimulation)
- Multiple affairs (extra-marital affairs)
- Multiple or anonymous sexual partners and/or one-night stands
- Consistent use of pornography
- Unsafe sex
- Phone or computer sex (cybersex)
- Prostitution or use of prostitutes
- Exhibitionism
- Obsessive dating through personal ads
- Voyeurism (watching others) and/or stalking
- Sexual harassment
- Molestation/rape
Generally, a person with a sex addiction gains little satisfaction from the sexual activity and forms no emotional bond with his or her sex partners. In addition, the problem of sex addiction often leads to feelings of guilt and shame. A sex addict also feels a lack of control over the behavior, despite negative consequences (financial, health, social, and emotional).
The focus is on controlling the addictive behavior and helping the person develop a healthy sexuality. It includes education about:
- healthy sexuality
- individual counseling
- marital and/or family therapy.
Support groups and 12 step recovery programs for people with sexual addictions (like Sex Addicts Anonymous) also are available.
In some cases, medications used to treat obsessive-compulsive disorder may be used to curb the compulsive nature of the sex addiction. These medications include Prozac and Anafranil.
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Does the School Matters?
Going back to the question, "Does the School Matters?" I would have to qualify my answer with a "yes" because it is a learned social behavior that is relevant to most Asians - it is in Education that uplifts the individual to interact from one social agency to another. An individual begins interaction within the Family through his parents and the school is usually the second agency that he interacts with. Education plays a crucial part in "career path" and certain elements within the school are influential factors in a man's self-esteem and ability to survive in each niche. Remember, Obama attended Harvard and it is within Harvard that he has expound his political views crossing from a least passive role in Chicago to now, the ultimate path of his career as the new US president. I would say that the school matters because that agency should have a "simulation" of the actual world up there but I think most schools stagnate because instead of moving forward as society progresses from agriculture to industry, it makes a significant picture that indeed it has a difficulty in adopting to such vicious change. The late Gov. Justo O. Orros rationalized that the "Philippines is taking its time" when confronted with a question as to why Malaysia and other rice-producing country in Asia are far progressive well in fact they trained from the Philippines via IRRI? The politician had that rationalization which stuck into my head for years in one of the events in LC. I was struck by the response of laxity and I bet those who listened have their own opinion. (Why would LC have such laxity on choosing such speakers? What are their guidelines?) I am not against politicians speaking in schools but how good are these "figures" in motivating students? The school matters because the student is supposed to take his first liberal step outside of his own family circle. I would affirm Dr. Emilio Joven's little chat while we were assisting him in a minor operation commenting on "Why would student still be accompanied by their parents in the enrollment process? Aren't they old enough to make decisions?" He has a point there, was it because of a certain level of "mistrust" that the parents are so rigid in entrusting their money or was it the over-protectiveness or fear of most mothers that they felt the need to accompany their children all the time from filling up those enrollment forms, doing the talking for their children at the Dean's office or Registrar. There are many implications of such unnoticed harmful effects of over-protectiveness. On the other hand, a "student" begins to "cheat" based on outside variables. His vulnerability is a result of so many laxities, within the family itself and yes, the schools are not addressing such laxities because some are just too concerned about getting the cash and providing a sound-to-be-good service disguising as Best Quality to be sold. Like what Inday said in her earlier testimonials about that Champion detergent commercial, that you have to pay... School matters because the school is supposed to be the first battle ground to exercise your freedom. It is saddening to realize that most schools are "underachiever" of so many things, that they could not facilitate to preach what they revised in their new directions. No matter how authorities would "revise and put a tag on a commodity if the content is still the same, fortification will fail (just like what happened with FIT, it did not replace water to wash our vegetables and fruits.)". You want to know where your money goes? Don't look at the new buildings, not the facilities... look at the heart of the institution- the teachers. They are significant determinants of the power of quality Education. The question is, how long will the teachers remain "passive"? Are the students ready to learn?